Again I am beginning this blog by beginning with the title. My customary practice is to title the blog after it is written. No idea why I am proceeding in an entirely different fashion but it does seem like a a good idea at this time. Much to my wonder, somewhat like a miracle, discovered It Seemed Like a Good Idea at the Time is a Canadian comedy film, directed by John Trent and released in 1975.[1] One of John Candy‘s earliest films, he plays the minor role of an investigating police officer. I did not know that Canada made comedy films. It came as a total surprise, rather destabilizing. The things I do not know of my country of origin. I guess that is what happens when you leave it at 24, return at the age of 78 and leave a year later due to Islamaphobia. The place still haunts as you shall learn later.
The second miracle, of the miracle , is that I actually may be leaving Bahrain. I have overstayed my welcome but it has not been my fault. It was the fault of my Chase credit card who insists on trying to protect me with Fraud Alert and then to make matters worse provided the most harrowing useless service ever through their Frequent Flier travel as-called assistance program.
Those people could not plan themselves out of a paper bag. They cost me a fortune in long distance fees and took away my any peace of mind I might have managed throughout this nightmare. Lidya, Elizabeth, Jill, and then Candace from Tulsa,Oklahoma are to be avoided at any cost. Not really their fault, it is because their computers, supplied by the company are inoperative. If I were them I would quit. Anyhow I do now have a ticket, soon to be turned to a boarding pass. I received another Fraud Alert from Chase. I have no idea whatsoever why my buying a ticket to go from Bahrain to Malaysia looks criminal, but it must. I said YES I made the payment request.
Fortunately I have more than one credit card and in the early calm hours, after Fajr prayer, was able to utilize its assistance. PHEW. My Malaysian sister has been alerted, the darling greeting sent by her granddaughter was received and sent to a man. His response?
He: I am sure they will love you so much.
Me: Stupid! They already do. Unlike you.
Trust Me, he deserved that response and more. I do love the following phrase.
Me: Anything worth doing is worth overdoing.
Alter Ego: It is funny, Know its origins?
Me: I do not but it is memorable. I am going to use it.
Alter Ego: How? Why?
Me: People often say that women should play hard to get to trap a man. I have decided to play impossible to get.
Alter Ego: That is overdoing it.
Me: Yeah! But I have nothing to loose. In the midst of entire stress he texted that he was going to meet with his father. He: Hi Love I am having a real talk with my father now. Me: Should I be nervous? He: Kind of. Help me to pray for the best outcome.
Two and a half hours later responded: He: Woah We done I have so much to tell you – maybe later. Me: I am so glad you are happy with the results of your meeting, It must have been scary.
It is now 24 hours later and I have not heard of the results of this meeting making more than one request for some enlightenment. Therefore, I took matters into my own hands, testing him in the following manner.
Me: This was causing me stress but I am calm now. Decided that this is my life and what your father says has no bearing on me. So now I am extremely relaxed
Alter Ego: Is that overdoing something? Is it playing impossible to get?
Me: It is. I guess you are not a Muslim so you do not understand.
Alter Ego: I guess not. Should I revert to the Islamic Faith
Me: Yes: I highly recommend it.
In subsequent one way conversations with this man I have upped the ante., so to speak. It means to increase what is at stake or under discussion, especially in a conflict or dispute.
Quite the opposite to his silence was my Malaysian Sister’s response to the news of my success in coming to Malaysia
She Happy Land Happy World Happy Jannah.
Me: What a GREAT thing to say!! Love you! It is going on the blog.
This is the sheer joy of having a blog. I just might have broken up with this guy via the blog. For the whole world to see. Hahaha I can disdainfully say:
Me: Read the blog.
He: Tell me!
Me: Why do you think you are special? Everyone else reads the blog. So can you.
And of course you cannot reach me on the blog. That is called having the last word. The problem with some people, particularly entitled men, is that no one has ever said NO to them. Therefore, they think it is a game, to play with kind hearted women. It isn’t a game, it is deadly serious. If any one thinks that playing with your feelings is a game – then you do NOT want them. They lack an essential quality – empathy. And if you do not have it to start with – you never get it. That is scientific – not pop psychology offered by Instagram.
Took me a long time and hundreds of therapy dollars to gain this truth. You are getting it for nothing. You get what you pay for. Hahahaha
By the way, are Meg and Harry in Nigeria. CNN is on in the breakfast bar but I do not have my glasses on. If they are it would be irony upon ironies. If so I shall go back to the blog and my astute remarks criticizing the joy everyone expressed because she was marrying a Prince. Look what happened in their life. I shall NOT make that mistake. Hahahaha. I shall go my own way – who needs a Prince. Not me.
I shall conclude with out with the old, in with the new. The phrase “out with the old, in with the new” means to leave behind old things or ideas and embrace new ones. It signifies a fresh start or a change from the past to the present. It is a way of saying that something new is replacing something that is old or outdated. I totally love some of the quotes.
The unfortunate thing about being a ‘doormat’ is, eventually you must expire and get replaced.” ― Chinonye J. Chidolue
“The problem probably started when I refused to call the process of purchasing the device an “upgrade.” When I buy a new roll of toilet paper, I do not refer to it as “upgrading” my toilet paper even if, for some uncanny reason, the new roll is slightly better than the previous one.”― Regina Barreca
While many things have changed, some things haven’t changed enough.” ― Gina Barreca
The photographs that accompany this blog will be ones taken in the Children’s Museum of Ithra in Kohbar. Thought I had found a resting place, a home of sorts. it was not to be. I will discuss the reasons for this when I have more perspective, the clarity that comes when you put something behind you. When you leave behind old things and embrace new ones. I am off to embrace new ones.
